During my hours mentoring for the Senior Capstone Project, I faced many difficulties that needed me to move outside of my comfort zone. Mentoring at an after school care program gave me the opportunity to work with kids, one of the many interests I was thinking about pursuing. The time I spent there was only for 25 hours, but it felt as though I had worked there longer. Many of the children also had a few issues or quirks of their own that I had to understand and overcome to be successful for my project, such as autism or superiority complexes that made the children hard to deal with. Along with my time with the students I assisted my mentor in tutoring the children with homework, watched them complete activities, and helped prepare other activities for upcoming days.
The first couple weeks mentoring I felt very out of place and awkward, it was hard for me to use my voice to tell a student not to do an action or have them complete a project without me telling them multiple times. I always observed my mentor and her way of handling difficult students like that, she had good control of her tone of voice and authority to get them to do what she demanded. I was able to slowly show more of myself to the children and have the connection with them to be able to tell them directions and correct their behavior when needed. I improved on this skill in the duration I mentored at the program. I was also able to create a sort of adult figure image to the children while still being a friend to them, something that I wanted to achieve.
When having to deal with difficult children, I had to put myself in their position and perspective to see what they were looking at, and why they were acting the way they were. I was able to handle a rising temper tantrum of an autistic student by telling them to calm down and breathe, and to not overreact to the situation at hand. I was successful at distracting their attention away from what was bothering them and diffusing a bad outcome. With another autistic student I wanted them to complete a coloring project for the program and a few other activities they needed to complete, and I had to negotiate with the student to come to an agreement of a couple pages of coloring a day so that they still had time to play. I did this to a few other students who needed to finish projects as well and I was in charge of that area when I was visiting to mentor. I learned to have patience for the children to get them to understand me and for me to understand them. Along with patience, I gained a skill at handling situations calmly without making the kids feel agitated or more irrational.
The first couple weeks mentoring I felt very out of place and awkward, it was hard for me to use my voice to tell a student not to do an action or have them complete a project without me telling them multiple times. I always observed my mentor and her way of handling difficult students like that, she had good control of her tone of voice and authority to get them to do what she demanded. I was able to slowly show more of myself to the children and have the connection with them to be able to tell them directions and correct their behavior when needed. I improved on this skill in the duration I mentored at the program. I was also able to create a sort of adult figure image to the children while still being a friend to them, something that I wanted to achieve.
When having to deal with difficult children, I had to put myself in their position and perspective to see what they were looking at, and why they were acting the way they were. I was able to handle a rising temper tantrum of an autistic student by telling them to calm down and breathe, and to not overreact to the situation at hand. I was successful at distracting their attention away from what was bothering them and diffusing a bad outcome. With another autistic student I wanted them to complete a coloring project for the program and a few other activities they needed to complete, and I had to negotiate with the student to come to an agreement of a couple pages of coloring a day so that they still had time to play. I did this to a few other students who needed to finish projects as well and I was in charge of that area when I was visiting to mentor. I learned to have patience for the children to get them to understand me and for me to understand them. Along with patience, I gained a skill at handling situations calmly without making the kids feel agitated or more irrational.